Dear Holy Cross Parents and Carers,

During the recent two-week break, I gave myself permission to slow down. Instead of diving into my usual stack of professional reading, I indulged in what I affectionately call “a little bit of rubbish” - light-hearted books and magazines that let my mind wander and my heart rest.

During one such moment, I read the following:

“Your dog is your best friend. In return for food, more food, fun, and your affection, your dog will give you lifelong loyalty and leave his pawmarks on your heart forever.”

Author Unknown

Laughing, I glanced at the oversized dachshund curled up at my feet - a long, loveable furball with an insatiable appetite and a knack for mischief. Not long ago, she climbed onto the dining table, devoured a plate of freshly cooked sausages, and returned to the floor with the stealth of a ninja. My son, Edward, who was standing close by, was scolded most severely for being greedy. His cries of innocence were ignored – who else would have undertaken such a selfish act??? True story!

As I looked at my dog, it struck me how quickly we forgive our pets - their antics are amusing, their affection unconditional. But when it comes to our children, the consequences for their misdemeanours are often harsher, and forgiveness can take longer. It hardly seems fair, especially when we consider that our children leave ‘pawmarks’ on our hearts too - deeper, more lasting ones shaped by love, growth, and shared life.

This reflection led me to think about how our expressions of love evolve over time. There was a season when my children sought hugs, kisses, and handholding without hesitation. But as they grew, especially into their teen years, those gestures became more complex. Teenagers seek independence, often pushing away the very comforts they once craved. Unlike dogs, who will never be embarrassed by a cuddle, children slowly redefine how they want to be loved - and how they want to be seen.

Navigating this shift can be challenging. As parents, we find ourselves walking a delicate line, wondering how to show affection without crossing boundaries. Yet, we mustn’t stop trying. If we do, our children may begin to question their own lovability. They don’t always see the quiet effort behind our gestures -  the way we’re ‘busting a boiler’ to stay connected, to remain present, and to offer love in ways that meet them where they are during this complex journey from adolescence to adulthood.

Our Christian faith reminds us that love is patient, kind, and enduring. It’s not always loud or obvious. Sometimes, it’s in the quiet presence, the listening ear, the shared meal, or the simple, “I love you,” that may not get a response but is deeply felt.

As a school family, we strive to embody this love - to be present, to nurture, and to walk alongside one another. Whether it’s through a warm smile at drop-off, a prayer shared in class, or a moment of understanding between teacher and student, we are building a community rooted in connection and grace.

Time moves quickly. Our children grow, our pets age, and we find ourselves wondering where the years have gone. But amid it all, we are called to be present - to cherish the messy, beautiful moments of family life and to trust that love, once given, never fades.

So, if you’re feeling a little worn out, or unsure how to connect with your child, remember: even a quiet, “I love you,” can echo in their hearts. And if all else fails, there’s always the dog - ready with a wagging tail and a slobbery kiss.

Sarah Hamilton
PRINCIPAL